The Way We Work Now (and Why)
/When you’ve been in this industry long enough, you stop chasing the way things “should” be done and start paying attention to what actually works.
This year marks nearly 20 years of weddings for us, and that kind of longevity gives you perspective. You see patterns. You see what creates ease and what creates chaos. You learn what allows you to show up fully—and what quietly drains you over time.
This post isn’t about money or packages or numbers.
It’s about clarity.
And why the way we work has become more intentional than ever.
Experience Changes the Questions You Ask
Early on, the goal is often: Can we make this work?
As time goes on, the question becomes: Can we make this work well—for everyone involved?
After hundreds of weddings, we’ve learned that doing our best work isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing things on purpose.
That means:
being clear about how we operate
being honest about what supports great events
and protecting the energy it takes to show up for our couples, our team, and our vendors
This isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing better.
Protecting Our Peace Isn’t Optional Anymore
Weddings are emotional. They’re meaningful. They’re layered. And they deserve care.
To do this work well—really well—requires space. Space to think, to plan, to communicate clearly, and to collaborate without constant friction.
Protecting our peace isn’t about avoiding hard work.
It’s about creating an environment where hard work leads to something beautiful instead of burnout.
When we’re grounded and supported, our couples feel it.
When our team isn’t stretched thin, the experience is better for everyone.
Intentional Vendor Relationships Change Everything
One of the biggest confirmations of this shift came from conversations with educators like Sasha Souza and other speakers we learned from recently—professionals who emphasized something we’ve felt for years:
Working intentionally with specific vendors allows everyone to operate at their highest level.
When you’re surrounded by a trusted, collaborative vendor team:
communication is smoother
timelines are respected
creativity flows instead of being forced
and the couple’s experience improves dramatically
These relationships don’t happen by accident. They’re built over time, through shared standards, mutual respect, and a commitment to doing things well.
That level of collaboration allows us to give our couples our full attention—not just manage logistics.
What This Means for Our Couples
The couples who work best with us value:
thoughtful decision-making over trends
collaboration over control
and intention over excess
They care about how their wedding feels—not just how it looks.
They understand that clarity creates calm, and that a well-supported team produces a better experience than a stretched one ever could.
This approach allows us to be fully present, proactive, and invested—because we’re operating in a way that aligns with who we are now.
A Note on Luxury and Budget
I want to be clear about something, because it matters to us.
Weddings are a luxury at every level.
Luxury doesn’t mean throwing money at something to make it “better than the rest,” and budget isn’t a dirty word. There is no shame in whatever number you’re able to put toward your wedding—your number reflects your real life and your priorities.
A thoughtful, intentional wedding will always matter more than a performative one.
Whatever your budget is, you deserve a beautiful day that feels like yours.
As our work has evolved, so has the scale at which we’re able to operate best—but that evolution comes from how we work, not what we value.
Where We’ve Landed
When I step back and look at the weddings that felt the strongest—the ones that ran smoothly, felt personal, and were genuinely joyful—they all have something in common.
They were built with clarity.
They were supported by a trusted team.
And everyone involved had the space to do their job well.
That’s the way we work now.
Not because it’s trendy or exclusive—but because it’s sustainable, intentional, and allows us to show up fully for the couples who trust us with their day.
And after nearly 20 years, that clarity matters more than ever.